Deliverance from the Fear of Not Being Wanted

The negative influence of rejection is deeply linked to feelings of self-doubt, unworthiness, and the internalized sense of being overlooked and abandoned. Often, we experience this negative influence when we feel we are not good enough to receive God’s love or that others may reject us due to our past experience of emotional pain. Many struggle with rejection due to their unhealed emotional scars, past traumas, or the influence of the enemy, which seeks to keep us bound to the things that hurt instead of focusing on the beauty of Jesus, which heals. I have often ministered to individuals who identify the negative influence of rejection using the following criteria:

• Difficulty receiving love, acceptance, or significance from God or others. 

• Sensitivity to criticism or perceived disapproval. 

• Choosing to reinforce negative beliefs, lies of the enemy, or past emotional pain. 

• Fear of rejection from God and others, which leads to withdrawal and isolation. 

• Feelings of abandonment, inadequacy, or unworthiness.

Freedom from the negative influence of rejection comes when we choose to respond to criticism, acceptance, and relationships with faith in God’s love toward us instead of reacting in heightened sensitivity, withdrawal, and the inability to receive love. This influence thrives in our isolation, promoting the lie that fosters further separation from God’s truth. Breakthrough from rejection happens when we make the choice to seek God’s heart and experience His love, which declares our identity and self-worth in Christ.  

Questions to Ask:  

1. In your experience, what things in life cause you to feel rejected? 

   1. How long have these things been a part of your life? 

2. Describe a time in your life when you felt most rejected using three descriptive words. 

   1. Was this time/memory influenced by a person? 

   2. Have you forgiven this person? 

3. When you were younger, in what ways did you perceive/receive love from your Father, mother, siblings, or friends? 

4. Where have you experienced the least rejection in life? 

   1. Where have you experienced the most rejection in life? 

5. How do you resolve those negative emotions when you feel most rejected? 

   1. With whom do you talk about your feelings of rejection? 

6. Are there any lies you believe about God’s Word, your identity in Christ, or God’s promises to you that may be influenced by rejection?  

Connected Influences: Self-rejection, self-hatred, perceived rejection, indirect rejection, loneliness, orphan lifestyle.   

Scriptural Truth: 

“I will give you back your health and heal your wounds,” says the Lord. “For you are called an outcast—‘Jerusalem for whom no one cares.” (Jeremiah 30:17) 

“Never! Can a mother forget her nursing child? Can she feel no love for the child she has borne? But even if that were possible, I would not forget you!” (Isaiah 49:15) 

“He was despised and rejected—a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief. We turned our backs on him and looked the other way. He was despised, and we did not care.” (Isaiah 53:3) 

“The Lord will not reject his people; he will not abandon his special possession.” (Psalm 94:14) 

“If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first.” (John 15:18) 

How to Pray for Breakthrough from Rejection:

You may pray aloud, using each step below:

1. REALIZE: "Lord, I confess (negative influence) is an area that limits my walk with You. Would You show me the first time I experienced this?"

   
   

2. RELEASE: "Lord, who I need to forgive for influencing this in my life. I choose to forgive (name of person) for (what they did or failed to do). It made me feel (share your emotions with the Lord). I release them from any debt they owe me and repent for judging them. I choose to bless them."

   1. "Lord, do I need to forgive myself for how I responded to this negative influence?”

   2. "Lord, am I holding onto judgment or unmet expectations of You because of this negative influence?"

      
      

3. REPENT & RENOUNCE: "I repent of partnering with (negative influence). In the name of Jesus Christ, I renounce my agreement with (negative influence). I choose to hand this to You.”

   1. Lord, I also renounce my agreement with (any connected negative influences).

      
      

4. RECEIVE: "Lord, what do You want to give me in exchange for the negative influence I have given You?"

   1. What truth do You want me to walk in, based on Your Word, Your promises to me, and my identity in Christ?" (Write down and give thanks for the truths that you received from the Lord!)

You can break free from every negative influence present in your life! If you want to go deeper into the spiritual and emotional wholeness that God has for you, check out my book, Encountering Abba’s Heart, or use the purchase link below.

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